User:CKoerner (WMF)/We're in this together - "hacking" community culture

These are notes from the 2017 Wikimania hackathon session I helped to host. Putting them here so they don't get lost until I find a better home, if ever. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Expected_behavior
 * Sometimes feedback or ciriticism lacks details. "It is bad" can be responded to with probing questions to learn what is 'bad'
 * People want to be heard and letting them know you are listening can change the tenor in a conversation
 * Meatballwiki "DefendEachOther" - http://www.meatballwiki.org/wiki/DefendEachOther
 * Others stepping in to a discussion can sometimes be more effective than going back-and-forth
 * Sometimes this can backfire when there are large groups in opposition (like say inclusionist vs deletionists). Each side will have supporters involved.
 * Be aware of cultural differences
 * Some cultures are more direct in giving feedback. What can be seen as agressive is just being direct
 * Giving time between reading and responding to reflect on a situation, let others respond, and prepare a response with a clear head
 * Humans often want to give response immediately and quickly - that can lead to a more emotional or not as thought out response
 * Knowing when you won't be able to change folks minds (beliefs)
 * Not responding solely to the individual, but to all participants in the conversation
 * Encouraging positive interaction with things like Barnstars or talk page messages
 * Demonistrating civilty in your own interactions.
 * Documenting best practices and sharing postiive examples (see WMDE link from Johanna)